Irrespective of what country you reside in or what state you live in, dating is what you make it. If you ask 10 singles about their dating experience, you will get 10 different answers. Some have a hard time dating and others have an easy and fun time. We believe dating, just like most things in life, is what you make it and will be whatever you think it is. If you think dating is hard, then it will be. If you think it’s fun, then it will be for you. The goal of dating is to have fun, add more excitement to your life, and learn more about yourself and what you’d like in a future mate. For successful women and successful men, the most common complaint is not having enough time to date and the quality of people on the market. Despite what many singles complain about, the good news is there is a method to dating that can make your experience much more fulfilling. For a successful woman looking to dominate in her love life as she does in several other areas, we’ve put together a list of the important secrets that every successful woman who has found her person swears by. Master these 17 things and you will dominate in love and dating
Meet More Men
Humans are creatures of habit and sometimes months (we hope not years) go by before you realize that you have been in the same routine and seeing the same people. To have a great dating life you have to meet more men. Men are everywhere so there shouldn’t be much difficulty meeting them. Intelligent women understand that being in the right place at the right time can make the world of a difference. Successful career women who have limited time tend to maximize their time by accomplishing multiple goals at once. Smart women have better experiences in the dating world because they will meet men at the places they go to regularly, like the farmer’s market, gym, spa, places of worship, sporting events, political events, charity events, and private clubs.
Some women will step their game up and really maximize an opportunity to meet men beyond seeing them around on their daily errands. For example, if a successful woman is traveling for business, she may show up at the airport with a few extra minutes to spare and sit in a lounge and meet men there. Some women will do a little brainstorming so they make sure they are meeting the type of men they want to date. This consists of thinking about the kind of men you like, and then considering what the men you like might like and where he may go. A successful woman is not going to add to the demands of her own career and already robust life, but she will work smarter and not harder. If she’s into men who are fit and take their health seriously, she most likely has a membership to one of the hottest gyms in her area, and meeting her type of man will be effortless.
Incorporate Dating into Your Everyday Life
Successful single women make sure to incorporate dating in some form in their everyday personal lives. Integrating dating into her everyday life does not necessarily mean date nights are every night, although that would be great for someone really looking to settle down. Incorporating dating into her everyday life could mean smiling at a few hot guys on your daily commute, asking men for help more, swiping a few minutes a day on dating apps, and letting your friends know you’re interested in being introduced to eligible bachelors, or flirting when you encounter an attractive man.
Understand Men + the Love Gap
Generally, high-achieving women attain professional success through hard work, consistency, and making smart decisions. Tremendous amounts of research and analysis go into attaining these achievements, and the need for these skills doesn’t stop with her career success, they can also be utilized for her personal success. She understands men, especially the man whose heart she wants. We all know the feeling when we are around someone that just gets us. It doesn’t matter how much or how little, there is a level of comfort that comes with a person that we feel understands us. Since she wants to attract men, understanding them goes without saying. This woman knows what turns men on, what turns men off, what men generally find attractive, common relationship problems men face, etc. These women have already asked their dads, uncles, brothers, male cousins, and male friends what they value, look for, and like in women. For more insight on understanding men, check out our book list.
The Love Gap, a term and best-selling book written by Jenna Birch, is the concept of modern men claiming to want smart and successful women for a romantic partners, yet many successful women are winning in life while losing at love. The successful women who are aware of this gap know that a good connection with a potential mate is going to be organic so long as she is authentic.
Look Good
Highly successful women make big efforts to operate as their best selves as much as possible because they understand that operating from this state is the best way to reap maximum reward for their efforts. Whatever it is that makes her feel her best, she does it and does it consistently. Being a woman is no walk in the park. It takes time, money, and energy to stay looking flawless, but the right kind of woman knows it’s worth it. She keeps herself in check physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
Elevate Your Living Space
Powerful women understand how much the environment plays a role in productivity and ultimately success. Where a successful woman spends most of her time makes her feel good, because for a woman to do good she must feel good first. Her home and workplace inspire her by incorporating everything she needs to feel like her highest self from beautiful scents, colors, images, and furniture.
Create Your Love Story
Successful women understand that their success in attaining that fulfilling relationship starts with a vision first. Just like her social, professional, and financial success started with a vision and plan, she knows that her love life is no different. If she has not written down her own love story, she at least has a vision in mind or inspiring pins saved to her Pinterest Board. She knows that if she doesn’t have a plan or vision, she will likely settle for anything–which is not an option for her.
Get Online
She has an online dating profile that is strategic and includes photos that capture her essence in a classy and flattering way. Dating apps are the number one way people meet their spouses today. Over 39% of heterosexual couples in the United States reported meeting their spouse online.
Rotationally Date
She knows that dating is not a commitment and that it is okay to date a number of men at the same time. Through rotational dating, she is able to understand what she wants and doesn’t want in her future mate.
Femininity
Although in today’s society the typical modern woman is less in touch with her feminine side, a successful and powerful woman understands that most of her power comes from her femininity. Unlike societal norms, she does not compete with men or try to be like a man. She understands that she is equal to a man but her functionality is uniquely different from his. Healthy feminine women and healthy masculine women appreciate gender roles.
Flirt
She flirts with men based on her comfort level and has the best time doing it. There are a number of ways women flirt with men and it is based on comfort level. Some women flirt by making eye contact just a few seconds longer than normal with a man they find attractive, some may touch a man’s shoulder or forearm, some will smile, and some more direct women will pass a note.
Have Courage
She has tremendous amounts of courage and is not afraid of rejection because rejection from the wrong man brings her closer to the right man. Women at the top of their game understand rejection is redirection. She is not meant for every man and every man is not meant for her.
Be Resilient
Part of a woman’s success is based on her resiliency and consistency. She knows she just needs one yes despite the number of no’s she may hear to close a deal. The same holds true in love and romance. There can only be one groom, so she dates consistently and is resilient throughout her journey until the right partner finds her.
Have Manners + Etiquette
Successful people know how far proper manners and respect can get you. No one wants to work alongside the successful b!tch. Rudeness, anger, and entitlement are pure turnoffs in the dating world and life. Politeness, courteousness, kindness, and class are admired. In the current world of digital communication, she has good digital manners and is not offensive. If she comes across a man who does not deserve her manners, she rises above him and gracefully bows out.
Set Boundaries
A successful woman does not do things that make her uncomfortable. She takes things at her own pace, communicates her feelings consistently, and makes sure she is always comfortable dating. Masculine energy moves fast, especially when it is very attracted to you. Successful women don’t get offended when a man tries to have quick sex with her, she takes it as a compliment and slows him down by pacing the dating experience. She doesn’t say no, she says not yet. She sets boundaries lovingly and respectfully.
Strategize to Save Time
Successful women do not have toxic relationships because her dating strategy won’t allow for one and her future plans do not have space for one. When a successful woman encounters a man and her intuition sends alarm bells, she does not go out with him again. She listens to her feelings and does not waste her time or his time. She has non-negotiables (no kids, no long distance, etc.) and asks about them upfront before a first date to save her time.